When you have issue about the things have happened in your past, letting go is easier said than done. And this is especially true for very busy women, who have built their lives around successful careers and flourishing families. The problem is, most women use these everyday responsibilities and the issues they face every day to mask having to deal with issues of their past. Whether its career, family, health, a failed romance, a death – many women have their own stories to share. They are just seldom heard.

What’s causing the rut?

            Being a busy woman is such a broad description. Women can be busy with work; others can be full time moms dealing with several kids at home. Other women are single parents who are balancing a job or two with the responsibilities of raising and supporting their children. Others are full of responsibilities in their civic or social participations.

One of the most common reasons for feeling unhappy or second guessing life is envy or jealousy of what other women have. This is human nature that we want what we don’t have and are unsatisfied with what we do have. Career women envy those women with loving husbands and children, while the full time moms wonder what it would have been like had they chosen to stay in their jobs and put that first before raising a family. When you’re comparing yourself to others and evaluating your own life, it paves the way for looking back into your past and wishing that things might have turned out differently.

So what can you do?

It is a very easy thing to be dissatisfied with your past. And most women fall into the trap of looking at where they are now, and wishing they could have done things differently in the past. What every woman must understand is that you are where you are now, and there is nothing you can do to change what has already happened. The key is to see your past as something positive and look forward to a better future. Each woman’s past brings her unique experiences that she can draw lessons from, whether they were good or bad experiences. This doesn’t mean that you can’t reflect on what has already happened; you shouldn’t dwell on past decisions or “what ifs” and instead learn from them and carve a life you can be happy about.

No doubt that everyone has a chance for a more satisfying, happy future. But that can only come with the realization that the past is your foundation to build a strong and happy life. Don’t get stuck in feelings of regret, envy, or hate. No matter what has happened or what may happen, look to future with a bright, positive eye! The best is yet to come.

Written by Carl Mathis, author of Pursuing Your Purpose. Visit Carl’s website at https://www.carlmathisbooks.com